Friday Challenge: Patterns

You have heard “actions speak louder than words”. I recently saw a post somewhere in the world of social media that said it a little better.

Patterns speak louder than actions.

Patterns are actions, repeated over a time. 

Question words,

Test actions, 

Trust patterns.

The trouble is that for many of us, our own patterns are caught squarely in our blindspot. It is easy to see the patterns of others. It is difficult, if not impossible, to see our own without help.

This is one of the most powerful and vulnerable questions you can ask another person. It is also one of the most possibility-unlocking questions you can ask:

What are the patterns you see in my life?

What would be possible for you if you could see the patterns in your life that are caught in your blindspot?

I have had the privilege of doing handwriting analyses for a few different people over the years. I always find it amazing that these patterns are evident inside the handwriting. And almost without exception, those patterns have been hiding in plain sight. Once exposed, however, the patterns begin to change almost immediately. 

The experience follows a very predictable routine. 

  1. Revelation. “Wow, that really is me. Do you think everyone notices this?”
  2. Contemplation. “I wonder what people actually think of me. I wonder what I’ve missed out on because of this. I wonder what would be different in my life right now…”
  3. Transformation. This tends to come fairly quickly. The challenge is revelation. Awareness plus accountability creates a very expedient path to growth. 

How will you expose the patterns in your own life? Who will you ask? Better yet, who will you ask today?

I want to thank the mentors in my life for their courageous input into my life. You know who you are. I love you.

Friday Challenge: Unity

Dr. Cialdini talks about the timeless principle of unity. The important distinction is that a relationship of unity does not look at whether or not I am like someone else. It looks for a relationship that says I am of someone else.

Have you taken the time to ask yourself what you might think, do, or believe if you were of someone or something else?